Monday, January 25, 2010

"Frontal" Discipline

This is a phrase I've heard thrown around online lately. Apparently it comes from LDD, or Loving Domestic Discipline... or possibly the advanced version known as ALDD.

I think that frontal discipline involves pussy spanking and possibly clit spanking. (Does it work for guys too? Are y'all out there getting your penis spanked?) To my mind this seems awfully sexual, too sexual to be in the punishment realm. But I could be wrong.

I've used pussy spanking in my stories before because I think it really combines eroticism with discipline (real, pretend or somewhere in between). The embarrassment factor is high. There's a Spanking Tube video of a man spanking a woman's pussy. She is face-up on a sofa, and he's sitting next to her. Her bottom is close to where he is sitting. She's got her right leg kind of up on his left shoulder and her left leg splayed out toward his legs... gotta draw a diagram. At one point he holds her pussy lips apart with his left hand and spanks her clit with his right. It's supposed to be disciplinary, but she sure looks like she's enjoying it.

When I think of frontal spanking, I'd think it would include the front of the thighs, too. But I'm pretty sure that's not technically part of it.

Bobbie Tawse has a terrific spanker on her site named Dennis Hunter who just rocks the thigh spanking.

I'm also kind of intrigued by the idea of using rough sex as punishment... although if someone gets wet from rough sex I guess that might not work. It's nice to think about though...

Think I'll do that now.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Anal Sex; The Rest of the Conversation

Audrey stood nervously shifting from one foot to the other. She was facing the corner, just as she knew David expected.

She heard his footsteps approaching, but she didn't turn to look. She kept her hands folded.

She was wearing a white t-shirt that hung to her hips, exposing her bare bottom cheeks. She felt the cool air on her bare skin, and then she felt David close the space between them.

She felt one hand rough hand fall on her shoulder and the other cup her bottom cheek. He squeezed the plump cheek just a little, and Audrey heard herself gasp.

"I know you don't like to have your bottom fucked," David said calmly as he rubbed her bottom. "I hope this will help you remember to behave yourself in the future."

Audrey didn't answer. She was sure no sound would come out if she tried.

David pushed his hand suddenly between her cheeks, and Audrey jumped. "Where does little Audrey get punished?" he asked her.

"My bottom," she managed to say.

"That's right," he told her. He swatted her firmly, the sound bouncing off the walls like a gunshot. "Bend over the bed."

Audrey shuffled toward the bed and bent over it so that her bottom was pushed out into the room the way David wanted it.

He grabbed her bottom and began to knead and squeeze it with large hands. He was rough, and Audrey squeezed her eyes shut.

"I'm going to put my cock in your bottom," David told her, giving her a smack. She jumped a little, and grabbed the quilt beneath her. "Then I'm going to grab those hips and fuck you good."

Audrey tried as hard as she could to relax as David's cock pushed into the opening of her bottom. She groaned as she felt herself stretch to accommodate him. He wedged himself into her, and she felt tears sting her eyes.

"Now it's time to punish this bad girl," David said. He held onto her hips and began to pump her hard. He showed no mercy, pulling her toward him as he smashed against her.

She was crying almost instantly, both from the extreme discomfort of the act and from the shame she felt from being punished this way. She wanted to beg him to stop, but she knew he wouldn't until he was sure she'd been disciplined.

"Where do naughty girls get fucked?" he asked her firmly, slapping her bottom twice for effect.

"In their bottom," Audrey answered through her tears. The slaps hurt and only added to the pain she felt deep inside her bottom.

David came hard inside her bottom, and Audrey felt completely dominated as she was pushed hard into the bed. When he pulled out, she was sore and uncomfortable.

David turned her around and kissed her. "You behave yourself, young lady," he told her. "I don't mind repeating this if I have to."

Audrey shook her head, "No. I'll be good."

"Climb into bed, then. You need your rest."

He flipped off the light and turned on the restful music on Audrey's CD player. She fell asleep with her bottom sore and her heart content.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Anal Sex Conversation

I wasn't really going to write more... just kind of a vignette, but so many people have asked for the story to continue that I'm going to write it. I especially thank Nick for his heartfelt plea. :-)

Coming soon - I promise.

Saturday, January 9, 2010


David stood casually, leaning against wall with his arms folding in front of him.

"What?" Audrey asked with a tremble in her voice. She knew she had been naughty.

"I think this calls for our special punishment," David told her.

Audrey felt her head begin to spin. "No."

David nodded and took a step toward her. He smiled when Audrey took a step back. "What's our special punishment, Audrey?"

Audrey swallowed. "I don't want to say it."

He closed the space between them and kept his gaze steady. "Say it."

She took a deep breath. "You... you want to fuck my.. bottom."

David smiled. "That's right. A good old-fashioned bottom fucking is what you need. Go on into the bedroom. I want you in a t-shirt and nothing else."

Audrey scrambled from the room.

Monday, January 4, 2010

Anal Discipline

Ohhh what a squishy, potentially squicky topic!

There is such a thing as anal spanking. You've read about this. (I've written about it!) This is where you spank a bottom hole (or have your bottom hole spanked, depending on your particular viewpoint). I like this in sexual ageplay especially. Bottom hole spanking gives a sense of discipline, sexuality and extreme intimacy all at the same time. However I've found that it works better in fiction than in practice. There are practical matters that make the whole process somewhat awkward. You can have the person being disciplined hold the cheeks apart, but that can't last too long. You can also rig some sort of contraption (think duct tape) to keep them apart. Or if you have a small spankee, you can have her bend over in kind of a downward facing dog position, only on her knees, and the cheeks will separate. However those of us with more substantial bottoms find that this doesn't always work. In my experience, the intimacy of the act is delicious but the swats don't feel especially stingy because of the effort involved in exposing the bottom hole. (Any expert bottom hole spankers out there who want to share a technique? In the comments of course... or maybe in person ;-) ).

Anyway all of that is anal spanking. Anal discipline, however, usually implies something being put into the bottom hole. (Some people like the word anus... not me. I like bottom hole or hiney hole myself...)

Anal discipline can be butt plugs aka bottom pacifiers or bottom plugs (or some daddies I know simply call them reminders). These are plastic, glass or rubbery little suckers that pop right into your bottom hole. The smaller ones don't hurt. They are just uncomfortable and embarrassing. Larger ones can stretch your bottom and hurt a lot.

Another possibility for anal discipline is a butt plug made of a ginger root. I'm not an expert on this, but you can find directions all over the internet.

Anal discipline can also mean anal fucking (I apologize to those who don't like the word fuck. I personally enjoy it a lot... although some doms don't share my opinion). You can have your bottom fucked for pleasure, discipline or both. In general, bottom fucking is a very serious expression of dominance or even ownership, depending on your relationship. It doesn't have to hurt in order to be discipline. However if you want it to hurt, you can certainly make that happen through limiting use of lube and through heavy thrusting... oh my, is it getting warm in here?

The same effect, or a bigger effect, can be achieved with a dildo. Some of these are friggin' huge and will definitely get your point across.

To me, anal play is hottest when it's used for either real or play discipline. The real draw for me is the authority the top/Daddy takes in violating my bottom hole in the first place. Any discomfort is secondary to the general feeling of being put in my place. Just a finger up my bottom can be incredibly exciting... actually just the words "Do you need my finger up your bottom?" make me very drippy. Hm... getting light-headed just thinking about it.

So ends my discussion of anal discipline. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Ramblings about boundaries

So I'm thinking a lot about smut, and I'm finding myself wondering about lines in the sand as far as what is and isn't appropriate in an erotic book. I realize that each person has his or her own idea of what is too much. I guess for lots of people even spanking is going too far. Then again, some people are repulsed by the idea that stories about sex even exist!
There are issues that pop up in spanking stories that don't push my buttons, and there are some that even repel me. Like I said in my previous post, I'm not much of an enema or diapers girl. However, I don't judge anyone for his or her particular brand of kink. In real-life activity, the two important words are consenting adults. In stories, I don't even think consent is necessary. I realize that some would disagree.
So I suppose that's one area that pushes the envelope. Some don't want to read a story that includes lack of consent. For some, myself included, it can be hot under the right circumstances. But then are we talking about non-consentual spanking, non-consentual sex or both? And does it matter?
For me a non-consentual spanking (in fiction) is a turn-on. Rape, in the traditional sense, isn't. However the rape fantasy is huge among women, and should they be able to write and read about it if that's what they want? (And is it different if a man has fantasies of raping a woman?)
Daddy/daughter is a huge turn-off for some people, even when it is quite clear that the story does not involve incest. Marking and blood are other turn-offs for many spankos.
I know that many people believe that what I write is sick. Believe me, I know! You should read some of the responses I get to my stories. I write what turns me on. It turns out that it turns others on, too.
But do I know where my personal line is? I guess not. There is nothing that turns me on that doesn't feel appropriate to write about. So on I go...

Saturday, January 2, 2010


I'm not so great with New Year's resolutions, but I've been thinking about a few things this year.

I think that really being open and free with my sexuality is number one on the list. Why be inhibited? Sexuality means something different to each of us, so why not embrace what it means to me?

A friend of mine is resolving to find a Daddy this year. To this I say BLAH. (I mean great for HER!). As for me, I'm starting to recognize the freedom and joy of being on my own. Sure I have a couple of dear friends who like to get paternal now and then. :-) And I am certainly not opposed to making more friends and connecting to daddy types and others for fun and entertainment. I wouldn't want to be without sex, particularly my kind of sex, for goodness sake. But sometimes in the past when I've been Daddied up with someone (you like that phrase?) I've felt like I was many missing out on other experiences.

My friend says this is because I have yet to find the right Daddy.

Anyway, the name of the game in 2010 is freedom and self-expression!